Thursday, January 8, 2009

Still No Court Date - CAUTION: A Very Honest & Raw Post

Tomorrow will mark a month from when we received the referral for our Little S and Big S. Honestly, I'm going out of my mind waiting for a court date. I've been irritable, anxious, did I mention short-tempered? and definitely short on patience all week. I keep hoping for some type of update on my children, but still nothing. Knowing internet access is spotting in Africa right now really isn't providing me much comfort.

One would think that because this is our 2nd adoption, it would be easier. Honestly, up until this point it was pretty much a piece of cake. It's that "been there, done that" mentality. You know the drill, you know what to expect and you just ride the waves of ups and downs that come with international adoption. And I was pretty good up until this week. Maybe it's the post holiday blues, I don't know. All I know is that I want a court date and I want it now (shameful, isn't it?). I sound exactly like my 22 month old daughter but I have no excuse.

So we continue with our "nesting:" cleaning out the garage, the den making room for more toys, organzing the attics, the kids rooms, etc, etc. to help pass the time. I think I need something to keep me distracted....any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

9 comments:

Lori S said...

Oh my goodness! I can't imagine going through that waiting, waiting, waiting again!! It must be so difficult!!
My oldest daughter(19) is reading Twilight and can't seem to pull herself away--maybe you should try that!! (o:
I'm about ready to escape into Twilight myself!!!!

My3Monkeys said...

HA! Whoever said waiting the second (or third or fourth..) time around is easier was SO wrong!! I thought it would be too, but knowing that your children are around the world and there is nothing you can do to help them is the worst feeling in the entire world. Hang in there hon, and call if you need me! See you on Saturday!!

Jim and Debbie said...

Oh, I can so relate!! We got our referral for Kuri very quickly and then it took 5 weeks to get our court date. Hang in there!!!

LoveNotes4CocoPrincess said...

No advice, just wanted to stop in and give you a cyberhug for being "honest and raw!"

The Albertsons said...

I have an idea!!!! We'll come visit. let's email... email me at rvzalbertson at gmail dot com and we can figure something out. may have to be towards the end of the month with my work schedule (and zach's), or maybe i'll come with just the kids while zach works during a week day.
yes, we are sisters. right? :)
and hey, i totally hear you on the waiting thing. now the wait for a court date is way longer than it was for your first adoption... when we got sam's referral we were told it would be between 1-3 weeks for a date to come our way. it ended up taking 6.5 weeks, which is now considered a short wait. but in the midst of it we felt TORTURED!!! so you're in my prayers for sure... it's gut-wrenching, eh???
love
becca

Anonymous said...

You have every right to feel the way you do!! They are ur childrena nd u wouldn't be a good mother if u didn't long for them!! I'm so sorry for the hurt the waiting brings..I can pray for a speedy date and for ur heart to feel peace:)
Tonia

DrewCareyShow said...

Oh man, I'm sorry this court date thing is taking so long for you! It's an eternity -- and then when you get it, it's another eternity... I know you went through the longest wait with Pickles, so hopefully your court date will come quickly and you'll speed through the rest of the process. Hang in there! Oh, and Happy New Year!

Monica said...

I imagine no matter how many times you adopt, the wait after referral must be so hard, knowing who your children are and not being able to have them home yet. This has been the hardest part of all the "waits" for me for sure. Praying you hear something soon...

Dawn said...

This waiting must be so difficult. I can't even pretend to understand your emotions. Praying for you and may you & your hubby be encouraged!